- Not all advice is good advice: Somewhere along the way of life, I was advised that if you spoke about your fears you fueled them. Talking about them equaled giving them power. FALSE. If you don't ever let your fears out you let them roam around in your mind, and they grow and grow, and then they become the elephant in the room. My best friend (he's also my boyfriend) gave me this new perspective and now I'm wondering why I ever believed that keeping thoughts/worries/fears quiet meant they would dissapear. Did they????? Not at all. I could have looked at the evidence and seen this advice just didn't hold up but instead I clung to it for years. Not talking about my fears let them fester, let them grow.
- Denying your fears and that you even have them doesn't make them dissapear & doesn't make you strong.
- Telling someone about your fears doesn't admit weakness: Do you know what's weak? Not talking about them because of fear. It takes more strength to speak up and tell somebody about what's on your mind than it does to keep quiet. I take the "easy way out" when I keep quiet about what's bothering me.. and it's not easy and it's not out.
- Sometimes others can see and point out the complete ridiculousness of your fears..but in order for them to do so, you have to tell them first: Most worries are ridiculous. Most of the things we worry about never come true. Sometimes they do, but are they hardly as bad as our mind lead us to believe they would be? Maybe some of your fears are founded. Perhaps they are legitimate fears but even then isn't it better to share it with someone that cares about you. Then you don't have to bear the wait of that fear alone.
Love,
Sarah
