"introverts feel the need to explain, apologize, or feel guilty about
what works best for them, they feel alienated not only from society but
from themselves.”
―
Laurie Helgoe
“you once said you would like to sit beside me while I write. Listen, in
that case I could not write at all. For writing means revealing one self
to excess; that utmost of self-revelation and surrender, in which a
human being, when involved with others, would feel he was losing
himself, and from which, therefore, he will always shrink as long as he
is in his right mind...That is why one can never be alone enough when
one writes, why there can never be enough silence around one when one
writes, why even night is not night enough.”
― Susan Cain
“As an introvert, you can be your own best friend or your worst enemy.
The good news is we generally like our own company, a quality that
extroverts often envy. We find comfort in solitude and know how to
soothe ourselves. Even our willingness to look at ourselves critically
is often helpful.
But, we can go too far. We can hoard
responsibility and overlook the role others play. We can kick ourselves
when we’re down. How many times have you felt lousy about something,
only to get mad at yourself for feeling lousy?” ―
Laurie Helgoe
“Extroverts want us to have fun, because they assume we want what they
want. And sometimes we do. But “fun” itself is a “bright” word, the kind
of word that comes with flashing lights and an exclamation point! One
of Merriam-Webster’s definitions of “fun” is “violent or excited
activity or argument.” The very word makes me want to sit in a dimly lit
room with lots of pillows—by myself.”
―
Laurie Helgoe
“Society is commonly too cheap. We meet at very short intervals, not
having had time to acquire any new value for each other.We meet at meals
three times a day, and give each other a new taste of that musty old
cheese that we are. We have had to agree on a certain set of rules,
called etiquette and politeness, to make this frequent meeting tolerable
and that we need not come to open war. We meet at the post office, and
at the sociable, and at the fireside every night; we live thick and are
in each other's way, and stumble over one another, and I think that we
thus lose some respect for one another.”
― Henry David Thoreau, Walden
“To express want is to own the desire, to stand in your own reality. The
easier alternative is the language of impairment: “I can’t come because
I’m run down, overworked, under the gun, tired, sick, or not up to it.”
The underlying message is, “I cannot attend because I am impaired,”
rather than the more honest and self-respecting response: “I choose to
not attend because I prefer the other option.”
―
Laurie Helgoe
“It would be wise to be concerned about the introvert who is deprived of
solitude. Is she neglecting herself due to depression? Is she falling
victim to guilt and self-reproach? Does she feel cut off from pleasure?
Does she feel dead?”
―
Laurie Helgoe
“In a conversation with someone sharing gossip, the introvert’s eyes
glaze over and his brow furrows as he tries to comprehend how this
conversation could interest anyone. This is not because the introvert is
morally superior—he just doesn’t get it. As we’ve discussed, introverts
are energized and excited by ideas. Simply talking about people, what
they do and who they know, is noise for the introvert. He’ll be looking
between the lines for some meaning, and this can be hard work! Before
long, he’ll be looking for a way out of the conversation.”
―
Laurie Helgoe
"This book is not about finding balance—we are really tired of doing
that! Besides, finding balance assumes that we have been allowed to be
fully introverted. We have not. This book is about embracing the power
of introversion. It’s about indulging, melting into, drinking in,
immersing ourselves in the joy, the genius, and the power of who we
naturally are—and not just on the occasional retreat, but in the living
of our lives.”
―
Laurie Helgo, Introvert Power: Why Your Innner Life Is Your Hidden Strength
I seriously need to read Laurie Helgoe's book.
This morning readying quotes has made me feel renewed, inspired, and at home with who I am.
Love,
Sarah
